Is it normal to prefer cats to humans?

Is it normal to prefer cats to humans?

In this blog we are going to discuss the subject about preferring time with our feline friends over humans. Looking at why we want to spend more time with our cats over other people, and how society views us for that!

Introverts should compromise themselves for others

As an introvert and empath I have to manage my mental, emotional, and energetic health otherwise I become a bit of a mess! My anxiety takes over and I can barely function.

It took me several years (I was in my 30’s) when I realised these two components, empath and introvert, are at the core of who I am.

Being able to identify them and also embrace them has been a big challenge for me.

In the corporate job being told to ‘network’ and ‘socialise’ during the lunchtime of events when I REALLY needed to retreat and recharge. I remember one day a manager telling me that I wasn’t allowed to eat my lunch in a quiet corner I had found because I needed to be visible for the audience in case they needed support. Well, in that moment I needed support. I needed downtime, a quiet space, no engagement or interaction.

Never again will I compromise myself for what others need.

Have you ever experienced this?

Someone telling you where you ‘should’ go, how you ‘should’ act, what you ‘should’ do?

In my Become a soul led cat guardian programme we don’t have ‘shoulds’.

Why? Because no-one deserves or owns the right to tell us what we need, how we can act or what we can do.

And our cats get that.

My boys get me.

Leo and Baby Max don’t tell me how I should feel. They don’t tell me what I should be doing. They don’t ask me how I should be using my time. They accept, embrace and love me for me. The real me. The me who manages anxiety. The me who sometimes just wants to meditate all day. The me who some days doesn’t want to speak. The me who, at times, needs to numb and avoid the overwhelming feelings I am experiencing.

They don’t push me to ignore my feelings, or push through them, or even to work through them.

The boys don’t ask me for anything. They make no demands on my time. Yes they need feeding, Leo needs his puffer and Baby Max loves to have cuddles but all of those I can manage. Even on my darkest days.

When we are with other humans we align to social norms, expectations, requirements, restraints, rules and so much more.

For me, it’s a real challenge to be with other people. Even those who I love dearly like my sister. I still have times when I walk through my front door and finally catch my breath. I can breathe now that I’m home. In my space. With my boys. In our home. Doing things our way.

I decided when my ex-husband and I split up that I would no longer compromise myself for another. I will no longer put other people’s expectations, needs or comfort above my own.

So yes, I do prefer time with my cats over time with other people.

And I am thankful that I get to make that choice.

It’s OK to love spending time with your cat.

It’s OK to struggle when you are with other people.

It’s OK to need time away from family, friends and co-workers.

It’s OK to honour what you need.

Why?

Because no-one else will do it for you.

You can’t be of service to other people if you are dragging your ass (mentally and emotionally speaking) behind you giving all of you to another.

It’s OK to want to be in your safe space.

And it’s OK to say no to others.

It doesn’t matter what society wants you to do. It doesn’t matter what your friends and family think you ‘should’ do.

I don’t do ‘shoulds’. The soul led guardians in my programme don’t do ‘shoulds’.

And you don’t have to.

It’s OK to spend time with your cat. They get you. You can be the real you.

And that’s all the matters.

I hope you have enjoyed this blog.

If you’d like to learn more about how you can let go of your ‘shoulds’ and live from your heart space let’s chat.